As the latest iteration of Facebook has deemed it necessary for me to see every single time my friends pick their noses in the Live Feed, I simply cannot help but notice every detail of their previously private Facebook activities. Especially pertaining to what friends they make and the groups they now join. Neither of which I care much about, but they’re too consistent to ignore (Damn you, Live Feed).
I continue to see groups sprouting up pertaining to the desire for a dislike button. And I have a few things to say about it.
It's obvious people like the Like button. The One Click Comment approach. What’s not to like about the Like Button? Heck, I use it all the time. I see something one of my friends is doing that I approve of, click, and they know so.
The Office is awesome. Like button.
I found a hundred dollars in my sandwich. Like button.
My dog just threw up. Like button.
I hope he ruined your carpet.
It's easy. We all like easy things. I cannot agree with this more. Someone press the Staples’ Easy button for me. That button knows what it’s talking about.
The logical course of action, of course, is to give this button its counterpart. The jelly to its peanut butter. The day to its night. The one thing that is the opposite of the other thing. You get it. I get it. Why doesn’t Facebook?
Well, I’m sure that those folks at Facebook (as the higher-ups at Facebook will be referred to, henceforth as "Facebook Folks") are aware of how opposites work. Like how people are happy with Facebook pre-FacebookLifeChanging-update and are unhappy post-update. Yes, I feel those folks are aware of this process, even though they do not feel the need acknowledge it. You don’t see them creating a group saying “Join this group if you’re just going to keep coming back no matter how much you don’t like what we change because we have the final say and we totally rule your lives, get over it.”
We all already are a member of that group. That group is Facebook itself.
Of course, people are thinking about the conventional use for a dislike button. The obvious use: agreeing with a comment that something is bad. Like the status "I got an F on my math test." Your friend Timmy would press the dislike button and then you and Timmy would agree that Fs in math are bad. And everything's great. Yay.
Another use with friends, could be in jest. Like "I got an A on my math test." And my friend Timmy gives it a dislike, but he goes on to post that, "You suck. I got a D-." This establishes that Timmy is a jealous turd.
These are the obvious reasons that come to mind that make people wonder why Facebook is so dumb to deny the Unlike button its rightful throne next to the Like button.
But I'm sure that the hesitation in adding the Dislike button--the little thumbs down that seems so easy to add--is the concern that it would be abused. It’s the conflict that negative comments can cause. The potential for even more misunderstandings and needless disagreements, which occur quite frequently in conversations through the Internet as it is. That is why I believe they haven’t gone ahead and threw it up the same time they put up the like button.
Let us refer back to the F on the math test example. I post: "I got an A on my math test." Then Timmy presses the Dislike button. I click the little red icon at the bottom of my screen. “Timmy Whatzizface dislikes your status.” The words sear into my brain. Timmy. Dislike. And then I'm sad. And Timmy is a douche for not sharing my happiness in light of my major success. As my eyes begin to mist up, I unfriend him while reaching for a tissure to dab away my tears of dissapointment. I block him as well. The next day, in math class, I slap him across the face with the very math test I got an A on, the red ink staining his cheek as his own tears stream down it.
This is, of course, the worst case scenario. And this is what Facebook, is probably trying to avoid. Timmy the Turd from getting slapped. People getting mad at other people over nothing. Which already happens. And is put on the news for all of us to laugh at. As always.
So the purpose of this is to bring to light the other side of the story. The reason that the Dislike button has yet to make its debut stem is unlikely to stem from supposed incompetence and/or unwillingness of Facebook to add the darned option. Dislike is a stronger word than we realize. Well, not until we get that unpleasant twinge of disappointment when someone dislikes something we were actually proud of. Perhaps then we’d see what Facebook is trying to prevent. Well, something worse than twinges, I’d hope.
And so leads into my rant about the true power of the Facebook groups on changing things in Facebook itself. Which is none. None power. Approximately.
Joining a Facebook group will always establish at least one thing: that you have joined a Facebook group. Not necessarily that you are going to reach the goals that the title of the group states. Just because you join a group that says "If you join this group, the thing that the rest of us joined it for will actually happen," in fact **does not guarantee that the thing you joined the group for will actually happen.**
Facebook is not governed by the people, for the people. It is governed by the people that *allow* the stalkers, the people that worry their Strawberry crop will die if they don’t get online to harvest it in the next hour, the people that complete quizzes to determine what Family Guy character they are, the people that put up pictures of that party their coach demands that they remove a day later…a place to stay. This is all.
Facebook doesn’t have to care if we all threaten to leave if it decides to make some sort of new radical change, like the words will always be written upside-down and backwards forever until the end of time. Some would leave. But the rest would figure out how to rig up a system of mirrors in order to respond to that quiz note that we were tagged in to show our friends. Facebook does not have to listen to us. It has the power. We are serfs on its mansion.
It's a Facebook group. Not a divine mandate that will carry the wrath of some omnipotent force that will smite the Facebook Folks that are preventing you and the other hundred or thousand people from reaching your group title/mission statement. Not summoning some genie that will make your shazam your desires into existence unbeknownst to the Facebook Folks. As far as I’m concerned, someone that wants to start such a group is just trying to see how many people they can get to join it and gloat.
Sure, you may just join a group for the sake of doing so. This is perfectly allowed. Join as many groups as you want. I don’t care. Well, since it appears in my Live Feed, I guess that I am supposed to, but for now, I will refuse to do so. But by all means, do not allow my sleep-deprived rant stir some deep-seated rage to hurtle back at me ten-fold. I’m barely clinging to conscious here. One can just as easily surmise that I wrote this because I don’t like Facebook groups. Because I don’t. You’re right. You won the game. Now that I’m forced to see them even more often annoys me even more. Or that I don’t think that random people on the Internet can come together to get something accomplished. Which I don’t. I’m a bitter cynic when it comes to people working together. Utopia will never be achieved. Why? Because group projects for school suck. A bunch of random people thrown together, in real life, with conflicting schedules. And on top of that, you all get graded on it. No good ever comes of group work. Search your heart, you know it to be true.
And so ends my rant. I think that the Facebook folks would sooner turn everyone's profile picture to a pink hippopotamus before caving in to the demands of a Facebook group. They’re the ones that have the power over us. Quit while you’re ahead. Or just keep busy by harvesting your crops on Farmville.
P.S. I'm avoiding writing my Lit essay, which is probably why I got started on this tirade. Even though I'm on the first page still. Whee. If nothing else, take this as an attempt to get my argumentative juices flowing and a way to stay awake to write the other 4 pages.